The article will give you the opportunity to reflect on all those thoughts that typically characterize those who have low self-esteem, exposing them to anxieties and fears that prevent you from living the life you want.
If you have been having questions or nurturing wishes for change from your level of anxiety and self-esteem, this short article could help you recognize those thoughts and fears that generate anxiety or lower your mood.
These thoughts that too often affect your life; you can learn to manage, monitor them and deal with them once and for all.
However, the first important step towards change will be to become aware of your way of thinking, perceiving and behaving. Change is always from self-knowledge.
1. I don’t want to be
The more you see you deviate from the way you should be, the more you are going to have anxiety, sadness, guilt and anger. Anxiety and dissatisfaction may therefore be closely related to the distance between a Perceived Self and an Ideal I.
2. Others must not agree that you off
To fear that other people may be aware of your bad star, seeing you as “weird”, “crazy”, “sick”, “stupid” or “clumsy” is one of the first indicators of anxiety and low self-esteem.
Perceiving yourself as inadequate might lead you to consider yourself as a subject where something is wrong … Bad … Defective … Believing such a lie increases your anxiety, lowers self-esteem, and adversely affects your relationships.
The perception of yourself as the inferior causes you to constantly devalue a physical, bodily, intellectual, and relational profile. Thinking ugly, stupid or poorly equipped increases your anxiety, lowers self-esteem, and adversely affects your relationships.
Seeing you as a weak or fragile person could cause you to develop very strong fears and fears, such as contracting a disease, imagining a financial collapse, and maturing phobias very unrealistic.
6. I must be perfect
Live with the false belief that your anxiety level will decrease when you finally reach a goal, show your worth and meet the high expectations of the people around you. Only if you are the first the other people will finally begin to consider you and will understand your value. Having that mental imposition increases your anxiety, lowers self-esteem, and adversely affects your relationships.
7. The best of social relations
The risk that other people perceive your bad star, your poorly managed anxiety, or more generally, your low self-esteem seems to suggest only one way out: avoid! Avoid opportunities for you, avoid places that frighten you and avoid social relationships. You will find yourself living a life that you do not like and that you have not chosen.
8. I finish with the retain only
To fear a real or imaginary abandonment is anxious forms that rely on the idea of ourselves as unimportant people of love. Not going well as you are trying to implement anxiety and morbid strategies in affective bonds. Strategies that will end up exasperating each other and let you stay alone.
9. I would like I can
The thinking mechanism of “I would but I cannot” is very dangerous as it constantly confirms the idea of being a disabled person, weak and helpless. Say to yourself phrases like “I cannot go to the concert so why …”, “better to avoid the subway otherwise it might happen that” … “I would like to be able to go home alone but …” lull your level of self-esteem, making you perceive by yourself and others as ill and incapable.
10. The strong answer should kill me; I will love or make it improved
Your mind could develop false beliefs that anxiety might lead to fainting, loss of control, or even worse to stroke. All these false truths help isolate you, make you feel vulnerable and thus avoid situations or people. Science and research clearly confirm that there is no correlation between anxious stimulation and the possibility of crazy, dying, fainting or losing control.
11. I never really have geared this
Low self-esteem and anxious high level are constantly projecting into a past that has been experienced as unjust and suffering and in the future, which is inexorably preempted as catastrophic and threatening. Take a look away from the past. Looking away from the future lowers anxiety.
12. The future is catastrophic
“My anxiety is worsening day by day … The future does not hold me anything good!” Pessimistic attitudes to your current general condition could lead to the implementation of disabling behaviors and thoughts that do not encourage you to improve, play, and seek solutions.
13. Best isolate to risk
Getting out of the house, meeting new people, looking for workplace relationships and being enterprising sentimentally represent events that could make you worse … Better sink down slowly than risk potentially devastating failures for trying to get better! False beliefs such as these help to reduce your self-esteem.
14. I would like that people were conservation a good idea of me
“It’s best to disappear slowly from the lives of people around me rather than risk compromising the positive idea they had of me.” Irrational and unfounded fears of this kind only contribute to condemn you to a universe of solitude, creating a deep hole in the relationship between you and the other.
15. I would like my body different
Your body is a machine you have to care for … A machine that you have to know how to improve its performance and feel it more. You are not just a brain but you also have a body that you need to learn to know, accept and improve.
16. I have reason to reveries inadequate, my sensations show me!
“If I’m afraid to be in public I mean I’m really inadequate … If meeting new people makes me anxious, I mean I’m really awkward, inferior or different.” Very often your mind creates irrelevant cause-effect relationships. Defining your image only based on the feelings you perceive is very dangerous, as you may mistakenly endorse the idea that you did not or did not hurt you.
17. Do not know me
This beautiful or ugly thing that happened to you did not depend on your will but on external causes you did not have power. Here’s how bad luck, chance, or destiny become the main artifacts of your existence, obscuring your every possible responsibility for change. Your existence will therefore be characterized by examinations where you are asked for the only unread page or, worse, family predestines to certain problems or difficulties.
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